A Beginner's Guide to Choosing Your First Sex Toy

Welcome! The fact that you are reading this article proves that you're a good person: you deserve a fulfilling sex life and a big kiss. 


Looking to buy your first sex toy? Not sure where to start? We get it. With so many styles and features to choose from, stepping into the world of toys for pleasure can feel a little overwhelming. But don’t worry! Our beginner friendly guide will show you how to seamlessly incorporate a new vibe into your life. One that’s customised to your needs and guaranteed to please. 


Remember: Finding the right toy all depends on what works for your beautiful one-of-a-kind body. So be open! Stay curious! 





It’s important to know what material your sex toy is made of before it takes a trip down south. Although, you won’t need to think too much about this when you purchase from Hello Lover - we’ve already done the legwork for you! All of our products are super high quality and safe to use on your most intimate areas. 

A 100% pure silicone toy is your best bet - it feels silky, transmits vibration well, warms to the touch, and is easy to clean. Other materials we like are medical-grade materials including stainless steel, or ABS hard plastic, glass and glazed aluminium. Avoid materials like jelly or rubber as they can be porous or toxic (meaning bacteria can build easily) and that’s simply not invited to our pleasure party! 




Consider what kind of stimulation you’re seeking. Do a little exploration and think about what feels good for you! Where do you like to be touched? Do you enjoy internal stimulation, external stimulation or blended stimulation? Do you enjoy on-the-spot focused pleasure or a broader sensation that targets the whole area? Getting down to the specifics will help you to find a tool that suits your needs, and/or your partner(s), should you wish to invite someone in on the fun. 




What constitutes the 'best' sex toy comes down to personal preference. So here's a quick rundown on what you could go for... 


Mini Vibrators

If you’ve never used a toy before, we recommend starting small. Bullets are great for beginners as they are petite, discreet and pack quite the punch. A bullet will send pinpoint vibrations to your external sweet spots such as the clitoris or nipples. They also come at a lower price point - perfect for those on a budget.





Prefer broader stimulation, rather than targeted? Opt for a wand massager. A good wand packs high-intensity vibrations and can also be used as an all-over body massager. Bliss!



Air & Suction Toys


Other clitoral stimulators include air technology toys. Designed to mimic the feeling of oral sex, this style of toy produces pulses of air that give a gentle sucking sensation directly on the clitoris. Warning: You may not want to leave your bedroom.


G-Spot Toys 


For those looking for internal stimulation, there is a range of toys curved specifically to pleasure your g-spot. Looking to double the fun? A dual vibrator will target both the g-spot and clitoris at the same time. Meaning blended orgasms could be on the cards. 



Anal Toys


Interested in exploring some backdoor play? We love that. Anal sex toys are specifically designed for anal play, with a wide-flared base to avoid any mishaps. The best anal toy for you will depend on your experience and level of comfort. 

First timer? Butt plugs are ideal. They are soft, flexible and gentle taper for easy insertion. You can then progress with different sizes, shapes and vibrations. Hot tip: go slow and use plenty of water-based lubricant.



Penis Toys


There are a plethora of options for penis owners! Sleeves (also known as masturbators) come with incredible textures, fancy warming features, vibration, air and suction, and even automatic thrusting options. 

Looking to heighten sensation and enjoy longer-lasting firmer erections? Then penis rings are where it’s at. You could also opt for a vibrating one so a partner can experience the thrill too. It's a win-win for everyone. 





This! This is what we’re all about. Sex toys can be an incredible tool for helping you explore your pleasure, build sexual confidence and connect better with your body. So go slow, tune in and (most importantly) have fun! 

No matter your gender, relationship status, sexual orientation or personal kinks - there’s something here for everyone. Now, go forth and give yourself some good loving!


Browse our full range online, or visit us in-store to chat with one of our friendly staff members. We’re always here to help x